The Secret to Making the Possible Impossible

So, now that we’ve discussed, at length, how to make things happen, let’s talk about how to keep them from happening, or, rather, how to keep yourself from allowing them to happen. Doing the impossible requires a vast amount of concentration, but, then again, so does keeping them from happening.

Whenever you’re about to do something important, like performing in front of people, the worst thing you can do is get into your own head and overthink whatever it is you’re about to do. As an athlete, I know all too well how letting your nerves get the best of you can hinder your ability to do things that are second nature to you.

People who go out in front others have devoted countless hours to practice before they ever step out onto the field, stage, or wherever their performance is taking place. They know exactly how to do what they are about to attempt, it has become what’s known as muscle memory, yet some of them choke. Why?

Psychology of the Impossible

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They begin thinking about all of the people who will be staring at them, what might happen if they mess up, and all of the things that could go wrong. This is effectively one of the best ways to make something impossible for yourself, and no one but you can possibly pull yourself out of this pit of anxiety.

Another perfect way to make something impossible is to not focus on the present moment.All throughout school, I was a football player and a wrestler. I went out onto the field or mat, and played or wrestled with some of the best athletes in the entire State of Washington. My senior year I walked all over my opponents.

I don’t say this to brag, but to illustrate how things can become possible that might appear impossible. And now, allow me to illustrate the opposite, as well. I was an excellent athlete, yet when I stepped out onto the wrestling mat, as opposed to the football field, my nerves often got the best of me.

Performance Anxiety

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At one of our home matches, my junior year I think it was, I went out under the lights and faced an opponent I knew I could beat. I could see it in the way he walked, knew that he knew I was the better wrestler. Again, not to brag, but to let you in on my story. Anyway, knowing full well that I was the better athlete, I still let my nerves get the best of me and barely won the match.

At the end of a six minute bout, we had just gone out of bounds and were told by the referee to go back into the middle of the mat to reset. As I looked up to the clock, there were eight seconds left of the match and I was down by one point. An escape would only get me one point, pushing the match into overtime.

That was not an option. I was a far superior wrestler, and had to prove it to myself and everyone watching! As the ref blew the whistle, I quickly and effortlessly got out from under my opponent, and took control from the top position, scoring two points and winning the match.

So, why was this so easy, when the whole match had been a struggle? Because I got my head out of the way, and let my body do the work I knew it could do. When I got down onto the mat that last time, preparing to win, there was nothing holding me back, I was free from my anxiety.

Focus on the Present Moment

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Now, let me tell you about the state championship tournament my senior year. I had just won the regional tournament, and was about to wrestle the fourth place athlete from another region. I had it in the bag. In fact, I wasn’t even thinking of the match, knowing full well I was about to win…or so I thought.

As my opponent and I stepped out onto the mat, the ref blew the whistle, and, before I knew it, I was on the mat, losing points, and very quickly the match. What happened? Why did I lose in the FIRST ROUND, when I should have won? Because I was not focused on the present moment.

As we stepped out onto the mat, I was thinking about the final match I was supposed to be in, the championship bout I was sure I as going to win. Yet, here I was, losing the first match of a two day tournament, when I should have made it all the way to the end. I was not prepared for a real match, so “sure” that I had it in the bag, already.

Now, there were other factors as to why I lost that particular match, but the main reason was because I was not in the present moment, and again, lost in my head, instead of allowing myself to perform the way I had practiced an entire decade to do.

Making the Impossible Possible

So, how do you make the impossible possible, instead? Well, for a full explanation, you can go back and read my two posts on the subject, but I’ll finish with a quick synopsis, if you’re don’t have the time to do so.

Its called flow. Allow your mind to focus so deeply on the present moment that there is no room for anything else. It really is about surrendering to the moment, instead of trying to force yourself to remember everything you learned. Breathe and, as those at Nike would say, “Just do it!”

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3 Ways to Quiet an Overactive Mind

It has been said that we as human beings have roughly 60,000 conscious thoughts in a single day, most of which are unconscious, meaning that they are so highly influenced by neurological processes beyond our control that we don’t actually choose what to think.

Whether you buy into that or not, the fact remains that most of our thinking is due to cultural programming, habitual at best. To the end of not sounding like too much of a cliche I won’t actually mention meditation in the meat of this post, but it is something anyone can benefit from as long as they are willing to actually give it a try.

1. Stop taking your thoughts so seriously

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“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it,” Aristotle

Many people have such negative thought patterns that they end up judging and berating themselves internally, and sometimes even externally, leading to more guilt and even more suffering. When you can entertain a thought without accepting it, this gives room for reprieve from self-defeating thinking patterns.

When you have a thought that is either against yourself or someone else, such as “I’m such a loser,” or “I’d like to take it out in him,” you have to admit its pretty silly to think such things. I mean, are you really a loser, or is that just something someone once said to you that you bought into?

2. Observe your thoughts, don’t buy into them

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This is clearly along the same lines of not taking your thoughts so seriously, although more of not allowing yourself to be sucked into them. Imagine a thought that randomly pops into your head like a dog catching the scent of a bone. Once the dog (your mind) has caught the scent (the thought) it is swept away, much like you are after you have allowed yourself to become lost in your muse.

This often looks like starting to think about what you would like to eat for dinner, mentally picturing the restaurants you might visit, perhaps. Then you think about how bad traffic is going to be getting there, and on and on, until you end up, like most people, thinking about how crappy their life is and they how they wish it would change.

3. Flow with your thoughts, just don’t drift off

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So, how do you find balance between going with the flow of your thoughts and not allowing them to take you away to somewhere you are not (here and now). Living in the present moment is a beautiful thing, but we can’t do it all the time. How else are you going to decide which restaurant to go to, without contemplating it first?

Once you have a thought, catch yourself in the act, allow the thought to come to fruition, and then focus again on the present moment. Sound a little like meditation? It should, because according to the most renowned spiritual leaders life itself is a meditation, and the more you bring your awareness to what is happening around you the more you will enjoy each and every moment of your life.

I hope you enjoyed what you read today, and if you did feel free to like, comment, and share below!

Fore more tips and tricks on how to live in the present moment and quiet your overactive mind, check out my book Holistic Health in the Modern Age, in which you can learn all about becoming more aware and expanding your life’s potential.